Fidelity

It breaks my heart to watch my brothers and sisters selling themselves into temporary happiness, temporary love. Relationships. ah where to begin. Most everyone has a desire to find that one person that will completely accept you for who you are and love everything about you. We desire someone that will be smitten with us and madly in love with us regardless of our flaws, til death do us part. BUT… we aren’t willing to pay the price. We aren’t willing to wait as long as it takes for that person. We get so impatient with God that we get into these fleeting relationships to fill the place that is only meant for our real spouse. We immerse ourselves so deeply into a relationship that was never even supposed to happen because we were too impatient and weak to wait for the one that deserves our love. We give ourselves to the wrong person physically and emotionally!

The reason why I speak so harshly is because I have done this. I fall into this category. I, at one point grew so tired of waiting on God. I was so disobedient because I gave into what my flesh desired. It left me nothing but hurt, ashamed, empty, depressed, and just straight up screwed over emotionally. Because of my disobedience I had to go through this process of God picking me up, ripping off the band-aids, and slowly healing my broken heart. Praise God He is merciful and Praise God that His strength is made perfect in my weakness. Because that is exactly what I was. Weak and helpless. God never intended for me to go through this either. I can look back and specifically recall when He was trying to get my attention and pleading with me that I turn around. But I decided to go my own way. Only through God’s grace and love can I say now that I am healed and I am made new through the blood of Christ.

I have talked to so many people about the topic of relationships and whether they should date someone or not. “But Maddison, it’s so hard being single, I’ve tried it and it sucks.” I’m sorry but try harder. I’ve been there and yeah it’s hard, but if I can do it you can do it. It all depends on what you really want. If you are willing to wait say..10 years for someone, how grateful do you think you will be for that person when you finally get to be with them? How much more will God bless that marriage for your obedience? The harder the journey, the more rewarding the destination will be. 

If you believe the Bible to be true, consider this verse, 1 Cor. 7:7- (Paul speaking) “I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” He is talking about the gift of marriage and the gift of singleness. There is only 2. We all have one or the other: either the gift of singleness or the gift of marriage. I read in an article, “There is no gift of ‘dating’ in the Bible!” So what does this even mean?? If I have the gift of singleness right now, does that mean that I will always be single? The answer is no. But in order for me to experience the gift of singleness for what it is, I must be single. Make sense? I have been single for almost 2 years now. I finally decided to allow God to show me what it means to experience singleness as a gift. And He has not disappointed. I have experienced what that means and yes, it truly is a gift. If you hate being single, you haven’t given God the chance to show you that it is a gift! I implore you to try, immediately.

If you are reading this and you are in a relationship that you aren’t sure about, just seek God and He will lead you.

Read Genesis 29. Jacob worked for 7 years to have Rachel’s hand in marriage. That is true love. 29:20 says, “So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.”

I see so many Christians rush into relationships. Tonight at Bible Study we talked about faith and hope. Faith is trust. Hope is unseen, it’s waiting for something. Paul said that faith is being sure of what we hope for. If you are for sure that something will happen, it is because you have tangible evidence that you believe it will happen. If God wants you to be with someone, He will give you reasons, He will show you through His Word. He won’t let you miss that person.

I want to be able to look my husband in the eye and say, I’ve been waiting years for you. I have set myself aside for you and I have not given myself emotionally to someone else. I am so in love with Christ and He will enable me to love you for the rest of my life.

Song of Songs 2:7, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not awaken love until it so desires.”

Disclaimer: I hope that it doesn’t come across that I am condemning those in relationships. If that is what God wants for you, that is awesome and I fully support that! That is between you and God. I just hate seeing those I love putting themselves through what I did. I want everyone to experience the fullness of what God offers. And how He intends marriage to be. Something needs to change about the way we are going about dating and relationships because what we are doing is NOT working. Look at the divorce rate.